Hypnosis is not an induced state. It is a perfectly natural phenomena which each one of us will be able to encounter. It is a state that lies between us being awake and asleep.
Therefore there is not a specific group which is capable of getting a hypnotic state. All of us can experience it. What can vary is the level of benefit we obtain through it. Furthermore, the capability of achieving it at will is different from individual to individual.
Each one of us has different levels of susceptibility. This is the variable that determines the level of hypnosis state which we can achieve. Additionally achieving hypnotic state at will also is dependent on this factor. Some men and women who are more suggestible can go deep into meditation at will as well as for longer periods of time.
Having said that, experts will inform you that the benefit we receive does not rely upon the above mentioned factors. In other words all of us could obtain some benefit out of hypnosis. The benefit we derive additionally depends on our personality as well as other individual characteristics. But aside from these the factors that rule the benefit one can derive from hypnosis is the motivation you have as well as the commitment you are ready to show.
People who visit their own hypnotherapist or listen to recordings on a regular basis are likely to benefit more. The more you are motivated to use self hypnosis the more gain you obtain. Hypnosis is not a magic spell which can be effortlessly cast on any person. It needs one to be highly motivated and committed if you want to bring in the sought after changes. This is true not only with hypnosis but any therapy which you use.
The key element is your attitude. If you are against hypnosis you will certainly not derive any benefit. If you are concentrating too much on the results instead of enjoying the benefits you will be totally wasting your time and efforts again. You will be hung with obstacles which will impede your progress and additionally influence negatively the amount of gain that you can truly obtain from hypnosis.
Hence the best strategy for one to enjoy the benefits of self hypnosis is to let go, relax and enjoy the results. Don’t oppose anything. Let things to take a natural course. The more conscious efforts you put in the less the benefits will come naturally to you.
Each one us can benefit from self hypnosis. The degree of benefit definitely will depend on how open one is and how much commitment one demonstrates. Therefore, your mindset is the key drive for you to derive the highest degree of benefit from Hypnosis.
I am 3 months pregnant with twins. My parents, who are both smokers (my mother is a chain smoker), are so excited. We all are. They keep saying how they can’t wait to set up a room for the babies and start keeping them and having them over, etc, etc. Well, I have a problem with that because of them smoking in the house. My mom already has an attitude because I don’t want her smoking around me while I’m pregnant (She always says "I smoked the whole time I was pregnant with you and your brothers, and you are all fine!" Yeah-not the point.) I don’t smoke and neither does my husband. How can I tell them, without being cruel, that these babies will not be spending the night at their house because of all the cigarette smoke?
My husband is adamant that the babies will not be there very much because of the smoking.
Be calm. Be positive.. Be very, very firm.
I would drop the subject for now. Wait till the babies are here. Then, of course, the babies will be with you for ages while still very young & no babysitting. If your mum starts to insist on ‘time’ with her then just say "No. Sorry, they are too young".
As the children get older you have choices.
1) Just always have an excuse for not letting them over to your parents.
2) When you do ‘visit’ your parents try to go outside the house into the fresh air & not sit inside amongst the smoke.
2) Just straight out tell your parents that studies have shown how harmful passive smoking is around ‘anyone’ let alone new children.
You must remain strong on this but don’t get into heated arguments with your parents. You are the parent of these children & it’s your call. Tell your mum you don’t want to take any chances with your childrens health.
Don’t believe your mum if she ‘promises’ not to smoke aroung the children if they are in her care – she will smoke. Her attitude is very selfish.
Relax & be sure that you have made the right decision. There will be plenty of times to share the children without putting them into danger.